Confidence is a skill that can take a little while to practice and learn. So, in the meantime, here are 5 easy confidence hacks that you can start using today.
By using these five tips, you continue to practice the skill of self-confidence. But, you also can reap the benefits of confidence straight away.
Five Confidence Hacks
1# Reduce Pressure
OK, so the first and easiest thing you can do to feel more confident is to take away the pressure of looking confident.
If you’re constantly thinking about how you must present yourself, what you have to say and everything else, you’re going to get overwhelmed.
It’s much better to keep reminding yourself that you are under no pressure to look confident.
Remember, self-confidence comes from within, not from the way you look or speak.
It’s a mindset that you can jump into whenever you want.
You’ll quickly find that as soon as you take away the pressure of having to look confident, you will feel more confident.
2# Take A Breath
Now, I’ll admit that this is a really cliché piece of advice.
Every confidence coach, public speaking teacher or corporate trainer will tell you that taking a deep breath is a great tool for feeling more confident.
And there are tons of reasons as to why this might be the case.
But, for me, it comes down to one thing: reminding yourself who is in control.
We spend a lot of time outside of our own bodies. We constantly worry about everything else that’s going on around us.
“What did my boss think of that presentation?”
“I wonder what Susie thinks of my new Instagram photos?”
“I hope Carl doesn’t notice that I’m out of breath from walking up the stairs.”
All this time spent outside of our bodies is often spent worrying about things that we can’t control.
So, taking a deep breath does two things:
- It brings your focus back to you and to your body.
- It reminds you that you can take control when you want to.
Now, this isn’t to say that you can take control of everything.
Rather, it reminds you that not everything is out of your control and you can still take confident action.
So, next time you feel things spiralling out of control, follow the clichéd advice.
Stop. Take a deep breath. Then keep moving.
3# Stand Up Straight
Time and time again, scientific studies have shown that posture can affect our moods.
If you think of someone who is depressed, you might imagine them with slumped shoulders, looking down and dragging their feet.
But, if you think of someone confident, you might imagine them standing up straight, making eye contact and striding with bold purpose.
OK, I'll admit that both of these are exaggerated caricatures, but they make the point.
Standing up straight can make a remarkable and instant difference to our confidence.
Give it a try now.
Stop what you’re doing and just straighten up your posture.
If you’re sitting down or standing up, try and straighten up your back (comfortably) and pull your shoulders back a little. Don’t stiffen yourself up, just let your body fall into a natural and comfortable upright position.
It feels good, doesn’t it?
Of all the confidence hacks in this blog post, this one is my favourite because it’s always an instant fix for me.
Whenever I adjust my posture, my body feels more comfortable and I feel more comfortable with it.
Just don’t exaggerate it too much.
4# Eye Contact
I cannot stress the importance of eye contact – especially during communication.
Now, if you’re anything like I was a few years ago, eye contact is going to feel very uncomfortable at first.
It feels vulnerable and unnatural.
But, practising good eye contact over time can make a massive difference in your ability to be confident.
To teach myself to make better eye contact with people, I spent a day walking around London trying to make eye contact with as many people as possible.
But, luckily you don’t have to do anything as extreme as that.
Instead, just focus on making eye contact about 50% of the time when you’re talking to someone and 70% of the time when you’re listening.
You can even practice at home using an eye contact simulator on YouTube.
Over time, as you become more comfortable with eye contact, your confidence will rise too.
5# Stop Worrying and Be Present
The worst thing you could do is stay up in your head the whole time.
When you’re too much in your own head, you are either thinking about things that might happen, that might be happening or that have happened.
Either way, you’re not paying attention to what’s happening right now.
We all live in the present and that’s where our focus should be most of the time.
By staying present, you make it easier to influence your own confidence.
You can stay present by taking a deep breath, focusing on making eye contact or becoming aware of your body posture.
Staying present will always make you feel more confident because it places worries about what has happened and what will happen aside.
It lets you live now.
So, I hope you found these easy confidence hacks useful.
Go out and try them for yourself and let me know how it went for you in the comments below.