If you could only achieve one amazing goal in your life, what would it be?
- Would you fight for world peace?
- Maybe just be a great parent?
- Would you travel to every country in the world starting with the letter ‘A’?
When push comes to shove, this can be a difficult question to answer.
After all, it’s difficult to know what are the best goals to achieve in life before it’s end.
So, if you are struggling with knowing what the best goals to set are, then read on…
This blog post isn’t just another tired list of the top 7 most amazing goals to achieve before you die.
Instead, it’s a complete guide for goal setting and how to reach your targets in life.
So, let’s jump into it.
Why Is Goal Setting Important?
When I was younger, my Dad used to tell me that, “If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.”
For a while, I didn’t know what he meant.
But now I understand that he was actually explaining the importance of goal setting and ambition to me.
You see, most people have plenty of dreams but hardly any goals.
Goals are dreams with a deadline. - Napoleon Hill
This is why most people don’t actually live out their desires.
But if you’re reading this blog post, then you’re not like most people.
So, why is goal setting important?
Goal Setting Provides Direction
“If you don't know where you want to go, then it doesn't matter which path you take.” – The Cheshire Cat, Alice in Wonderland
Unlike Alice, you know what path you want to take in life.
Goal setting provides you with the signs and milestones that will direct you to where you want to go.
Instead of relying on luck and circumstances to deliver you what you want in life, you can take matters into your own hands and shape your future through achieving your goals.
Goals Show You The Big Picture
Goals also help you to understand your bigger picture in life.
Because each one of your goals, no matter how big or small fits into your life vision.
And your life vision is that idea in your head of who you could be and the life you could live if things were different.
But that vision is too huge and scary to tackle all at once, no matter who you are.
So, goals also help you to break down that big picture in small, manageable chunks that you can tackle:
- Monthly, etc.
Achieving Your Goals Makes You Confident
Setting goals is important because every goal that you achieve, no matter how big or small gives you a boost of confidence.
Every time you achieve a goal, it gives you surety that you can achieve the next one.
Because you’ve come this far already and probably further than you thought you could.
So, why not just carry on and move forward to the next goal?
The Rules for Setting Life Goals
The truth is, anyone can set goals.
In fact, we do it almost every year with New Year’s Resolutions.
But we all know that New Year’s Resolution are the everyday person’s equivalent to a “campaign promise”.
Sure, everyone knows how to set goals but not everyone knows how to set effective goals.
There are five main rules for setting life goals:
Rule One: Your Life Goals Can Be Anything You Want
This is your time.
These are your goals, wants, desires and dreams.
So, it's important not to censor yourself.
Write from the heart and worry about the reality of it all later.
Don’t let doubt about your abilities creep in, we can deal with the actual achieving of the goals later.
This is your time and your goals can be anything you want them to be.
Rule Two: Don’t Let Anyone Influence You
There’s a lot of stuff that can influence you when it comes to setting your life goals.
Friends, family, culture, society, patriotism, religion, ethnicity and much, much more.
When it comes to deciding on the direction of your life, there’s a lot that can get in the way of what you want.
For example, I knew in college that I wanted to study Psychology.
I knew that I wanted to help people, though I didn’t know how just yet.
But I also knew that my Dad wanted me to become a lawyer.
So, I chose to study Law instead.
Thankfully, I got 1 year into studying at university and started to understand that my life had to be my own.
And the most amazing part was that my Dad understood my decision and supports me to this day.
At first, I let others influence my goals and it made me miserable.
But once I decided for myself what I would do and who I would become, I became 10 times happier.
So, don’t let others influence what you want out of life.
This is all about you.
Rule Three: Give Yourself Time
You can’t expect to have your whole life figured out in a couple of hours.
There’s more to goal setting than that.
It’s a process that can take days, weeks, months or even years to fully define.
For example, I knew that my life passion was to help people.
But it was only a couple of years ago that I decided to become a coach.
And I only decided that I wanted to specialise in helping people with confidence at the beginning of this year.
You can’t expect to have everything figured out in a matter of hours.
So, make sure that you are taking the time that you need to figure out what you want.
There’s a time for snap decisions but right now it’s time for reflection on what will make you the most fulfilled in life.
Rule Four: Expect That Your Goals Will Change
One of the worst bits of advice I have ever received about self-improvement was “never give up”.
We all get told from a young age that it’s not OK to quit.
It was dumb advice then and it’s dumb advice now.
Sure, we shouldn’t just quit when the going gets tough but the fact is that sometimes your priorities will change.
And if you just keep moving forward on your original path when that happens, you won’t achieve the success that you want.
Five years ago, being a role model to my niece and nephew wasn’t even on my list of life goals.
But fast forward to today and it’s a huge priority for me to be an inspiration to my four-year old nephew and two-year old niece.
So, make sure that you are remaining flexible.
And when the time is right to modify or quit a goal, then do what you have to do.
Rule Five: Give Yourself A Break
You’re going to screw up.
It will happen.
You’re also never going to be perfect.
It ain’t gonna happen.
So, give yourself a break and throw that perfectionism in the bin.
There’s this super-unhelpful idea in self-improvement that you have to always being pushing to the next level.
But self-improvement is really a journey of self-acceptance.
Which means, you have to find that part of you that knows that you are good enough where you are.
You never have to be the best.
You just have to be good enough for you to accept yourself as you are.
So, love yourself because you’re a work in progress.
Forgive yourself because you’re going to make mistakes.
And be compassionate to yourself because you deserve it.
How To Write Effective Goals
Whenever possible, I recommend writing down your goals.
Doesn’t matter if it’s in a notebook, journal, iPad or laptop. Just make sure that you have a physical record of your goals in life.
Now, it’s also important to structure your goals in the right way.
And that’s where SMART goals come in.
What Are SMART Goals?
SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Based.
It’s arguably the most effective way to set goals.
You see, if your goal is just to lose weight then it’s a pretty abstract target to hit.
How will you know when it’s done or when it should be done by? And how much weight should you lose?
On the other hand, here’s a SMART re-working of that goal:
I will lose 30lbs of fat in the next 12 months.
And here’s the SMART breakdown:
I will lose 30lbs of fat (Specific, Measurable, Achievable) in the next 12 months (Realistic and Time-Based).
Making sure that your goals hit each of these five points will make it much more likely that you will achieve your goals.
But, there are some exceptions to SMART goals.
Not So SMART Goals
SMART goals are at their most effective for more short-term goals and mid-term goals.
But, the more long-term the goal is and the more abstract the goal is, you are able to bump off some letters.
For example, a long-term abstract goal might be, “I want to be happier in the next ten years”.
It’s relatively Specific, Achievable and Realistic and it’s even got a Time-Based deadline on it.
But, it’s not Measurable since happiness is a subjective experience and means different things to different people.
It doesn’t make the goal any less valid though since it’s a great target to work towards.
But, as we’ll discover in a minute, long-term goals are made up of many short-term goals.
It’s those short-term goals that are determined in a much SMARTer way.
For example, “I will go on a 14-day meditation retreat in March 2021.”
That is a SMART short-term goal and feeds nicely into the less SMART long-term goal.
The Goal Setting Process
Finally, when it comes to writing your goals, you must understand that there is a process.
First, you have to have at least some idea of what your life vision is.
What is the big target that you want to achieve in your life?
Then, you need to identify the long-term goals.
These are the big milestones you will have to achieve in order to reach your life vision.
Then, you can break down that first milestone into smaller steps to reach it.
These are your short-term goals.
And remember, the more short-term the goals are, the more SMART they need to be.
And that’s it.
That’s how to write effective goals that you can actually achieve.
How To Achieve Your Goals – Simply and Easily
The very simple key to achieving your goals is momentum.
The mistake we often fall into is looking at our daunting life goals and thinking, “How the hell do I get there from here?”
In fact, when viewed that way, it’s super easy to become discouraged as I’m sure you know.
So, what do we do?
We let momentum take over.
If you’ve ever tried pushing a car, you’ll know that the hardest thing to do is to get it moving.
But, once those wheels start turning, it becomes so much easier to push.
Goals work the same way.
The hardest thing to do is start and get that initial momentum.
And that’s why I recommend breaking your goals down into their smallest component parts.
Then, once you’ve done that, you can begin.
Momentum In Action
Let’s say that your goal is to lose 40lbs in the next 6 months.
On the face of it, that’s an extremely daunting goal to work towards – though it does hit all the SMART criteria.
But, you can break that goal into smaller pieces – into monthly, weekly, daily and even hourly goals.
Then, just work on one goal at a time.
Monthly Goal = lose 7lbs.
Weekly Goal = lose 1.75lbs.
Daily Goal = go for a 30 minute light jog, eat 3 healthy meals, throw out all junk food in the house, buy healthy snacks.
Hourly Goal = throw out all junk food in the house.
The hourly goal feeds into the larger days plan which feeds into the weekly, monthly and end goals.
It breaks down the goal into small manageable pieces.
Because you might feel discouraged if you wake up and think “right, I’ve got to lose 40lbs.”
On the other hand, if your one goal is “throw out all the junk food”, then that’s easy to achieve.
Plus, you’ve taken one step towards your big goal.
Now you can set your focus on the next goal which might be: “make a chicken salad for lunch.”
And the amazing thing is that now you’ve taken a little bit of action towards the main goal, you’re more likely to take the next step.
This is how momentum works.
The first goal will be the hardest, but after that it will start to get easier.
And even when challenges arise, you’ll know that you can overcome them because you’ve come this far already.
More Tips For Achieving Your Goals
Chances are high that you’ll screw up and fail in some goals and that’s OK.
It’s all part of the process.
Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Just learn from the failure and take the next step.
Remember, treat yourself like your own best friend and give yourself the support, love and compassion that you need.
Oh my god! I cannot stress how important it is to give yourself a break sometimes.
The current self-improvement culture would have you believe that you have to be 100% productive 110% of the time – and then twice as much on weekends.
This is impossible.
You will burnout.
This is why you need to take breaks.
It’s counter-intuitive advice, but sometimes you need a cheat day or a lazy day just to stay sane.
Every now and then I still take days where I eat crappy food, binge-watch Netflix and just stay in bed all day.
It’s all part of being a human being, not an ultra-high performance machine.
So, when you need to take a break, give yourself that time.
But, when you’re ready to get back, don’t waste time.
Just do it!
Get A Support Network:
I would be nothing if it wasn’t for the friends and family who have had my back throughout life.
We all need support sometimes.
It’s important that you have someone or multiple someone’s in your life that you can rely on for support.
If you want a guide for how to create a support network, make sure you watch this video.
The Top 7 Best Goals To Achieve In Life (In My Opinion)
Now for what you’ve been waiting for…
What are the best goals to achieve in life?
Below are my top 7 best life goals (in my opinion).
This list is based off of conversations I’ve had, research I’ve read and my own personal experience.
But, it’s by no means a comprehensive list of goals.
Nor is it mandatory.
These goals might not mean anything to you and, as we’ve already discussed, you need to pick goals that are relevant and meaningful to you.
So, without further delay, here are my top goals:
Achieve Financial Stability
One of the leading causes of unhappiness throughout life is lack of financial stability.
So, working towards improving your financial situation, saving money, preparing for retirement and whatever else life throws at you is of vital importance.
I would argue that this is a universal goal that will improve any person’s life.
Create A Fulfilling, Successful Romantic Relationship
It goes without saying that we are not meant to be alone.
I believe that every single person in the world can create a fulfilling, successful romantic relationship, if they are willing to put the effort into it.
Find Your Family
By this, I mean find the people in your life who you can rely on for almost anything.
This could be siblings, spouses, children, friends and almost anyone else.
Finding your unique tribe of people will give you all of the support you’ll need to become all that you can be in life.
I don’t know if it’s true that you become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, but if it is true, then finding your family – your tribe – is of utmost importance.
Attain Good Physical and Mental Health
Taking care of your mind and body will almost ensure a long, healthy life.
Now, bear in mind that this will look different for everyone.
You might want to build the perfect athletic body and the sharpened mind of a genius.
Or you might want to do just enough to make yourself feel good about your body and mind.
Either way, do what works for you and stay healthy for as long as you can.
Contribute To Society
Once again, this can be a hugely personal goal.
Because some people will want to contribute by starting a multi-national charity to provide aid to foreign nations.
But others will contribute to society simply by being a good person, fulfilling their civic duties and respecting those that they share the planet with.
Everyone has their own way to contribute.
Find your way.
Make Peace With Death
I’m sure it won’t come as a surprise to you that you will one day be dead.
So, it’s important that you make peace with that so that you can live a life that you’ll be proud of.
After all, if you don’t acknowledge death then why would you work towards your goals?
You could just wait around indefinitely for something to happen instead.
But, when we accept and make peace with the fact that we will not be here forever and nothing is guaranteed, then we can move forward in a way that is meaningful to us.
Whether it’s spirituality, religion or just finding tranquillity in the present, find your way to make peace with death.
Accept Yourself For Who You Are
Everything we know about ourselves is a story.
We get told these stories from the time we’re born and we continue to tell ourselves stories all throughout life.
I’m ugly or I’m beautiful.
I’ll never become anything or I was born to be amazing.
I’ll never find love or there is a perfect person out there for me.
These stories and beliefs shape us, but only one belief forms the basis of your self-esteem, confidence and happiness.
I am enough!
That one phrase can change your life when you truly believe it.
It eliminates the need to people please, seek validation, engage in harmful activities and much more.
When you learn to accept yourself for who you are, then you start to understand that you are an amazing, unique individual.
You can find peace, happiness, success and much more in self-acceptance.
I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I hadn’t learned to accept myself.
Sure there will still be days when you feel down, depressed, anxious, insecure and more.
But, you can always return that place of self-acceptance and find a place of true love for who you truly are.
I hope you’ve found this article useful today.
I may not know you, but I do know that you are capable of achieving some amazing things in your life.
So, don’t let what others say shape the actions that you take.
Decide on what you truly want and go after it.
Do you agree with my list of the best goals to achieve in life?
Are there other goals you would add to that list?
Or maybe there are some that you would remove?
Let me know all of your thoughts and questions in the comments section below.
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