We all grow up learning the same thing: positivity is good, negativity is bad.
You’ve probably been told over and over again in your life that negative emotions – such as fear and anger – are bad.
Even in popular culture, these messages are always being reinforced.
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” – Master Yoda
But screw all that noise!
Today, I’m going to show you how to use negative motivation to achieve your goals in life.
Now, the majority of the self-improvement community hate talking about negativity.
It’s easier to just say that it’s “bad” rather than show that there is nuance to negativity and negative emotions.
But, to me, it’s one of the most powerful motivational tools that we have at our disposal.
So, what is negative motivation?
What Is Negative Motivation?
Have you ever had a situation in your life where you were driven by anger, fear or sadness to do something actually quite positive?
Your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you and you channel that anger into hitting the gym.
Or someone at work makes fun of you, so you use that embarrassment to make sure that your future work is airtight.
Negative motivation burns 100x brighter than any positive motivation when the emotion is strong enough.
So, what is negative motivation?
It’s using your negative emotions and feelings to drive you towards a desired outcome.
A Warning About Negative Motivation
Now, I’m definitely not saying that you should dwell on your negative emotions all of the time.
There is a lot of nuance that has to be involved in this.
In the same way that you shouldn’t always dwell on the positive, you can’t always dwell on the negative either.
You have to find a balance over time.
How Negative Motivation Is Different From Positive Motivation
Motivation is all about finding the most powerful reason WHY you have to do something.
Tidying your flat because Mum always told you to is poor motivation. There’s not a strong enough reason why.
But tidying your flat to impress your date who’s coming over this evening, that’s very strong reason why.
And both positive and negative motivation are about finding a powerful reason WHY.
The only real difference between them is the emotion that backs them up.
Positive Motivation: “I want to lose weight to feel happy about my body.” (emotion = happiness)
Negative Motivation: “I want to lose weight to show my bastard ex what he’s missing.” (emotion = anger)
Both are motivating you towards the same result.
However, negative motivation does tend to be more short-term. Whereas positive motivation tends to last longer.
My Experience With Negative Motivation
Throughout my childhood, teenage years and early adulthood, I was filled with anger.
But I was always told that I needed to keep it under control.
I wasn’t allowed to express anger, even when life was unfair.
To this day, I still hold a lot of anger inside of me, though I no longer bottle it up.
Instead, I choose to accept my anger and use it to create a better life for myself.
But it wasn’t always like that.
I pushed my anger deep down and never let it out.
So, as you might expect, this led to all sorts of behavioural problems when I was younger.
Every now and then, I would just lash out with anger at the slightest of things.
It was only when I was in therapy that I started to understand that my negative emotions weren’t necessarily bad.
So, I channelled my anger into working out, getting good grades and improving my life.
And even to this day I use my anger to boost my motivation whenever I need to.
Why You Shouldn’t Keep Negativity Bottled Up
We all know that hiding our emotions just makes life so much worse.
Keeping your emotions hidden will only create pressure that will manifest in an ugly way later on in life.
Every single emotion, thought or feeling that you have is a part of you.
And to reject even a part of you is a complete rejection of all of you.
But it can give you a lot of strength and energy in hard times.
It's not something to be shied away from though.
It is something that should be used in moderation.
It’s a part of you and your journey and you can do with it as you please.
Final Thoughts On How To Use Negative Motivation
Sometimes you’re going to feel sad or angry or just down.
Sometimes you’re going to feel happy or elated.
And all of those emotions can be used because these emotions only mean what you want them to be.
You might not always be in control of when you're happy or when you're sad or when you're angry.
But you can decide how you are going to react to that and what you're going to do with that.
So start today and begin to take advantage of every opportunity you have for success in your life.
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