Living with confidence is a goal that a lot of people have.
In fact, I’m guessing that the chances are really high that this is something you’re interested in too. After all, if it wasn’t, then you wouldn’t be reading this blog post?
Well, my mission with this blog is to help people learn how to live confidently.
So in this post today, I want to share with you five things you need to know to start living with confidence.
What You Need To Know To Start Living With Confidence
Building self-confidence can take a lot of work, but if you follow the advice from these five tips, you’ll be well on your way.
Just remember, take it easy on yourself and don’t try to do too much at once.
1# Confidence Is A Journey
OK, so the first thing you need to know about living with confidence is that it’s not just some end-state.
There’s no finish line that says “Congratulations, you’re now officially confident”.
You don’t get a blue check-mark, a silver plaque or any additional letters after your name.
If you’re really serious about learning how to become more confident, then you'll need to know that it’s an active and never-ending process.
You’ll have to keep working on it.
It’s just like working out at the gym: you don’t reach a point where you are “100% fit” and no longer need to work out.
Treat confidence like a muscle and keep training and maintaining it.
2# You Won’t Always Be Confident
OK, so here’s something that I wish was given a lot more attention – although it sounds like it should be common sense.
Basically, you won’t always be confident.
On some days, your insecurities might make you want to crawl under your blanket. They’ll make you feel like you never want to come out.
On other days, you’ll feel like the king of the world and that you can do anything.
Both of these days are part of becoming a more confident person though.
The best thing about this is that once you have figured it out for yourself, you can learn to maximise your days of massive confidence.
You can also learn how to overcome your lower days as well.
But you’ll eventually find your average level of confidence. That will be where you exist most of the time.
3# The Meaning of Confidence
Put simply, your idea of what confidence means is probably way different from mine.
That’s because everyone has their own experiences, values, goals and a million other individual differences.
So, whereas part of my self-confidence journey involves things like becoming more confident in sales, business and public speaking, confidence for you will probably be something else entirely.
Why do I bring this up?
Well, some people will try and tell you what confidence is.
They might tell you it’s about your ability to make millions of dollars, date models or start a huge Instagram following.
But, that might not be something you want at all.
So, decide what confidence means for you.
One of the best ways to do that is to ask yourself:
“What does ultimate self-confidence look like for me? How will I know when I experience it? What does it feel like? What am I doing and saying?”
Get as much detail as possible, write it down and never, ever forget it.
Shoot for your own goals, not the ones that other people tell you that you should aim for.
Ultimately, the main key to developing unbreakable self-confidence is learning how to accept yourself as you are.
We’re all totally imperfect beings.
We all make mistakes, say the wrong thing and pass over opportunities.
But, we’re also all human.
So, learning how to accept yourself with all your flaws and imperfections is paramount for developing healthy confidence.
Think about it this way: you can’t be self-confident when you’re beating yourself up for a mistake.
My best advice is to always treat yourself like you are your own best friend.
Give yourself the compassion, love and understanding that you would give to your closest friend and you’ll be closer to true confidence than you’ve ever been before.
When I started to learn to accept myself and stop paying attention to others’ expectations, my happiness, confidence and joy for living rose exponentially.
And I know that whenever I am feeling down or insecure, I can always return to a place of self-love.
The most important person to accept you is yourself, so make sure that you’re making room in your life for you.
5# Anyone Can Become Confident
You might think that, when it comes to confidence, you’re a lost cause. Or maybe you think that confidence just doesn’t come as naturally to you as it does for others.
Well, to that I say, “So what?”.
I genuinely believe that anyone can reach a point in their lives where they know what true confidence is.
I’m still not saying that there’s an actual point that you reach that is “confidence”, but you can come to understand what confidence is for you.
More importantly, you can understand how to make the most of your confident hours. You can learn how to overcome your lower days much faster.
You can transform your life.
How do I know this?
Because eight years ago, I was so anxious that I used to hide in the toilet at my college every lunchtime. I had almost no confidence at all. I could barely even speak to anyone in my class.
Now, I have made it my mission to help others find their inner confidence, just like I did.
Anyone can become confident.
And I am here to help you achieve that goal if that’s something you want.
I hope you found this article useful and I hope you’ll be able to use this information to start living with confidence.
Let me know what you think in the comments below.
Also, if you’re looking for 1:1 Confidence Coaching to take your confidence to the next level, click on my Confidence Coaching page to learn how we can work together to make that goal a reality.
Best of luck with your journey to self-confidence and I look forward to having you back here very soon!