I’ve got bad news for you.
During your lifetime, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re going to screw up and you’re going to fail.
If you’re lucky, it will only be a few times.
If you’re normal, then it’s going to happen a lot.
And sometimes you’re going to feel like a completely worthless human being because of it.
But, there is good news!
This blog post is going to show you exactly what to do when you feel worthless so that you can continue to move forward and create the life that you want.
Where Does The Feeling Of Worthlessness Come From?
For most of my life, I grew up feeling worthless.
Having been raised in a very strict religious setting, it was drummed into me from as young as I could understand that I was unworthy simply because I had been born.
When I moved into young adulthood, that was when things began to spin out of control.
That sense of worthlessness kept growing.
At a certain point, I was going to bed every night wondering why I was even alive, since I was so worthless.
I had gotten to the point where the only reason I even got out of my bed in the morning was if I had to go to class or to work.
Otherwise, I just stayed isolated and kept thinking about how worthless I truly was.
And when these thoughts continued to spiral out of control, I decided that it was time to get help.
What No One Tells You About Low Self-Esteem and Anxiety
Do you want to know the one thing that coaches and gurus never talk about when it comes to things like low self-esteem, anxiety, insecurity and other things like that?
It doesn’t ever go away.
And now you might be thinking:
“Ben, that’s not a very positive message. Because if my thoughts of worthlessness are always going to be there, then there’s nothing I can do about them. What’s the point?”
And yes, that’s a very good point.
So, before you click away from this article to find one with more of a positive spin, let me explain.
You’re thoughts and feelings of worthlessness are what are know as ANTs (or Automatic Negative Thoughts).
In fact, most of our thoughts are automatic.
They just pop in and pop out whenever they way and, most of the time, they have no meaning or purpose.
These are thoughts that you can’t control and that seems bad at first.
But then you start to realise something amazing!
If these negative thoughts are automatic, then it’s not you that’s thinking them.
When you start to see these thoughts as separate from you, then you can begin to accept them more easily.
After all, you probably wouldn’t take it seriously if your computer started throwing out random insults.
You’d probably find it a bit weird or funny and then you’d call IT.
So, no, we can’t actually beat our thoughts of worthlessness.
But we can learn how to cope with them better.
Everyone Feels Worthless Sometimes
It turns out the feeling worthless is something that happens to everybody during their lifetimes.
It’s a pretty universal experience.
The only difference is that there are some people who have learned how to beat those feelings and others who haven’t learned yet.
Like everything to do with confidence, overcoming feelings of worthlessness is just another skillset that can be learned.
So, don’t feel alone when it comes to dealing with this problem.
There are millions of people who deal with this as well.
You’re not alone.
And you can beat this thing!
What To Do When You Feel Worthless
So, after quite a long intro, it’s time to get into exactly what to do when you feel worthless.
I’m going to break down a few things that I’ve done over the past few years to overcome those feelings.
As with all of my blog posts, you can apply all of this information or just pick what works for you.
And we’ll start with…
Finding A Therapist or Counsellor
Hands down, therapy was one of the greatest investments I’ve ever made in myself.
At the height of my feelings of worthlessness, I started working with a therapist on a weekly basis.
We started doing things like working on challenging my negative thoughts and beliefs.
If I made a statement such as “everyone thinks I’m a loser”, we would challenge that belief together.
After a little while, I would eventually realise things such as:
- I’ve got no proof that everyone thinks I’m a loser or,
- Since I don’t know everyone in the world, it’s impossible to know that for a fact and,
- If I can find just one person that doesn’t think I’m a loser, then that belief is false.
My therapist would spend a lot of time just asking me questions about my thoughts and beliefs.
We would explore the truth behind them and how I came to those conclusions.
Then we would look even deeper to find out if they were even true at all.
As my negative beliefs and thoughts were challenged and eliminated, I was able to start replacing them with healthier beliefs and thoughts.
And, over time, this reduced my feelings of total worthlessness.
To this day, I’m still able to use the techniques she taught me to combat those feelings whenever they pop up in my mind.
So, my first tip for what to do when you feel worthless is to find a therapist or counsellor.
It will change your life!
Learning How To Take Care Of Yourself
Learning self-care was another huge turning point in my life.
When it comes to developing healthy self-esteem, there is no skill better than effective self-care.
You see, if you have something valuable or something that you love in life, you take care of it, right?
If you’ve got a kid or a pet or a partner, then you make sure that you take care of them.
And through doing that you show that you love and respect whatever or whoever it is that you’re looking after.
The problem is that most of the time we don’t extend that to ourselves.
And where there’s no self-care, then there’s no self-love or self-respect.
This quickly leads to feeling worthless.
So, what happens when you do start to take care of yourself?
Well then you start to show yourself that you are a person worthy of love, respect and positivity.
Self-care is the easiest way to show yourself love.
So what happens when you start taking care of yourself and family, knowing yourself and your life, it begins to build up this belief that yes, you are actually a person of worth.
And self-care doesn’t even need to be anything special.
It can be as simple as:
- Taking care of your physical health
- Going for a walk
- Spending some time meditating
- Taking a warm, relaxing bath
- Hanging out with amazing friends
Self-care is an amazing tool for building your self-worth.
So, why not give it a try and just see what happens next?
Learn How To Accept Yourself
Learning how to accept yourself is another key to overcoming feelings of worthlessness.
In fact, self-acceptance is the route to self-confidence that everyone has to take.
By accepting yourself as you are, you prove to yourself that you are a person of worth.
But how do you accept yourself?
That’s a question that will have to be explored in much greater detail in another blog post.
But the best way for you to get started right now on learning how to accept yourself is to set goals that inspire you and then start working towards them.
During the process, you’ll be discovering exactly who you are and becoming more “you” along the way too!
Final Thoughts On What To Do When You Feel Worthless
I hope you found this post on what to do when you feel worthless to be useful.
To recap, the best ways to overcome feeling worthless are finding an amazing therapist/counsellor, learning how to take care of yourself and learning to how to accept yourself.
Over time, you will learn how to get on top of those feelings of worthlessness.
Until then, keep working on becoming a little better at beating those feelings day after day.
If you fall backwards, don’t worry because there’s always another opportunity to take big steps forward.
If you’re ready to:
- Take your life and confidence to the next level
- Achieve your goals faster than you ever thought was possible
- Finally overcome self-doubt and become the person you’ve always known you could become
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